Don’t let covid kill my mother. I will do this.

Dear Gabi,

I’ve been to a lot of weddings this summer. In the last two, both held outdoors, the bride and groom both tested positive three days after the event. After a wedding, a quarter of the guests tested positive. So what are the host’s obligations to disclose this information? How should this be done while keeping medical information private? And why don’t these hosts ask guests to try it out first?

I think I’ll answer “no” and send a toaster

dear i think,

I’m not Emily Post, but of course I love to comment whenever I get the chance! Having just got out of a wedding (hundreds of people indoors, I double-masked), I’ve been thinking about this subject. I believe that if you’re going to do an event in the era of Covid, you’re obligated to do a few things.

First, you should ask people, at a minimum, to test on the day of the event and stay home if the results are positive or if they aren’t feeling well. Second, you must provide hand sanitizer and masks (and maybe some tests) at the event. Third, all invitees must be notified of any invitees who test positive in the days immediately following the event. You can do this without naming names, but if you get permission from those who are positive, I would use names so those close to you can be more vigilant.

For many people, Covid has turned into one big yawn. But many people are still vulnerable. For example, my mother is 93 years old, and I personally don’t want to be responsible for killing her… even though that’s exactly what I wanted to do in my teens.


Dear Gabi,

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